POSITIVE PARENTING

Some programs are developed for parents. Others are developed for teachers. This program works for both.

The concepts are the same for parents and teachers. The only difference is the setting. Many teachers are also parents who use these concepts at home as well as in school.

Understanding and cooperation between home and school are enhanced when teachers and parents are united in their methods of helping children and each other in positive ways.

The following are the three main approaches to adult-child interaction and explains the differences.

STRICTNESS
(Excessive Control)




PERMISSIVENESS
(No Limits)




POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
(Firmness with dignity and respect)

 
bulletOrder without freedom
bulletNo Choices
bullet"You do it because I said so."

bulletFreedom without order
bulletUnlimited choices
bullet"You can do anything you want."
bulletFreedom with order.
bulletLimited Choices.
bullet"You can choose within limits that show respect for all".

It look obvious that Positive discipline is the answer, however, how do we accomplish this logical approach. How do we solve the puzzle.

Basics are:

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Understanding the Four Mistaken Goals of Behavior  
 - Resentment ("This is unfair, I can't trust adults.")
 - Revenge ("They are winning now, but I will get even.")
 - Rebellion (:I'll do just the opposite to prove I don't have to do it their way'")
 - Retreat:
        a) Sneakiness ("I won't get caught next time."
        b) Reduced self-esteem ("I am a bad person;")

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 Kindness and firmness at the same time

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Mutual respect

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Mistakes are opportunities to learn

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Social interest

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Family and class meetings

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Involving children in problem-solving

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Encouragement    

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